10 Misconceptions about extroverts- How to know an extrovert better!

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My post about introverts gained a lot of views and positive feedback but since then I have also been asked to write about the misconceptions extroverts face. Unfortunately no one is immune to judgement and bias. So here’s my small effort to understand our gregarious and cheerful friends a little better.

Just like introvert doesn’t mean shy or anti-social, extrovert doesn’t mean voluble and party animal. But our society has a tendency to label people without realizing that not all humans are alike.

The inherent difference between the two personality types is that introverts get drained by socializing and need to recharge by spending alone time. While extroverts draw their energy by being around people and feel restless when they are alone or quiet for a longer period of time.

Here are some common misconceptions about extroverts that we are guilty of believing:

All extroverts are confident

According to psychologists extroverts suffer from self-doubt as much as anyone else. They can make friends easily and interact casually with strangers so it seems like they are naturally confident and may be they are, but in a social setting.

Extroverts never get tired

It’s true that extroverts are cheerful and lively but they do get tired. They need time to reflect, re-wind and recharge themselves on their own pace.

Extroverts are self-indulgent

Extroverts love to talk but its not always about them and narcissism can be related to any personality type. In fact they are naturally curious about others because they enjoy conversing on on varied topics.

Extroverts are less prone to anxiety and depression

Sometimes we mistake the frank and chirpy exterior for inner happiness and faith in oneself. Extroverts do have higher chances of talking out their issues but they are also prone to depression. So don’t assume your extroverts friends to be always happy and keep checking up on them.

Extroverts are flirts

Extrovert’s friendly demeanor is often misinterpreted as flirtation. Smooth interaction is their strong suit, they try to make everyone comfortable as they hate awkward silences which is not necessarily flirting.

They don’t like alone time

Extroverts need their alone time and also enjoy solo activities like reading and painting. However they get stimulated by social interaction so their alone time is definitely less than introverts.

Extroverts are good public speakers

Public speaking is not a talent related to only extroverts. Socializing and oration are different skills. Many extroverts I know get anxious and nervous before giving a speech but they are very comfortable speaking at a casual setting.

misconceptions about extroverts

They don’t have meaningful relationships

Extroverts have lot of friends because they thrive on socializing and draw energy from people around them. But that does not mean that their friendship is platonic. They are deeply connected to people they love and share meaningful bond with few close friends.

Extroverts are attention seekers

Extroverts do get the spotlight but not because they want attention but because they are ready to put more of themselves out there. Though to some extent its true that they don’t mind being the center of attention as they are comfortable with it more than their shy friends.

They are not good listeners

They are not only good listeners but they might also brighten up your mood with their cheerful personality if you open up to them.

Final thoughts on misconceptions about extroverts

Introverts and extroverts are like yin and yang i.e. complete opposites yet complimentary. I am a full on introvert but most people I truly connect with are extroverts, though I can’t relate to them in some ways but it does not matter as we need each other for an enriching life experience.

The simple point here is to not judge, assume or disrespect. We are all wonderfully imperfect.

Do share your feedback and anything that you would like to add to the list by commenting below 🙂

14 thoughts on “10 Misconceptions about extroverts- How to know an extrovert better!”

  1. Great article, Manali! Both extroverts and introverts are often misunderstood. I read Susan Cain’s, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, about a year or so ago. I learned the big difference between introverts and extroverts is that introverts need to be away from people to recharge, whereas extroverts need to be around people to recharge. Thus, we tend to have all these misconceptions you outlined so well!

    • Thank you Ebony. Even I heard Susan Cain’s ted talk while researching for my post on introverts and yeah how these 2 personality types recharge is the biggest difference between them along some other differences.

  2. I have to say I used to think that all extroverts were always party animals until I became friends with one. They’re not how people think they are at all. I’m an introvert, myself, but that doesn’t mean I don’t like being around people.


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